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    Two Sided Karma


    2010 - 07.08

    You know how things go-you get mad at someone, and you want revenge. But you know if you do something, it will look really bad for you. So what is your answer? He’ll get his, Karma will get him in the end. Sometimes, it happens quickly, other times it may take a lifetime.

    But what about there being two sides to every story? We often times don’t want to look at that because we feel we are the victims and we just want revenge. We didn’t do anything wrong. The other person did. They are at fault, not us. We were just standing there, innocently, when the other person just swooped in and hurt us.

    Let me share some stories/opinions with you. Some of these will be personal, others will be just from what I’ve seen.

    1) A number of years ago, I had been in a relationship with a man. He had come from a very male dominated background. His attitude was women should be seen and not heard, and they should have everything ready when he got home. Being incredibly shy, I did what I was told for many years. I finally broke out of that mold, as well as, out of the relationship. In my anger, I wanted swift revenge. I didn’t care what happened, I just wanted him to get his!! And then one day, I really thought about things. Was it all his fault? No, if I was honest with myself, it wasn’t. I had my problems. Which then got me to thinking, if I really want revenge, well, it’s karma. My karma would be wanting something bad to happen to him and more than likely, something bad would end up happening to me too. Hmmmm, maybe this wasn’t such a good idea. So, I said to the universe, wait a sec. I’m just seeing this from my side, so I guess that’s not fair. He probably has feelings of negativity against me too. If you really feel like he should be punished, then I’m sure you’ll do something that will get his attention. And if I need to be punished, I’m sure you’ll do something to get my attention.

    Shortly after this conversation, I found out that he had been seeing someone and had asked them to move in with him. He had always prided himself with being very intelligent (which he is), within a couple of months, he found out that his house mate, did not have a high intellect. He asked her to move out to make it better for both of them. She didn’t move out for almost another year. Yep, karma rules!!!! No one was really hurt, but I was happy.

    2) I have been involved in the Pagan, psychic, Wiccan communities for a number of years now. I’ve seen many people come and go. And I’ve seen a lot of people stay year after year. Each of those that have stayed have some kind of wisdom to bring to the “table”. Recently one of the Elders of the Pagan Community was diagnosed with a major health problem. Because of his past, a number of people said, well, he’s finally getting his karma. Look at him, see what happens when you do bad things? But I guess everyone forgot that another Elder was once rushed to a hospital down in Florida with some type of undiagnosed illness, and actually lay near death for a number of days till the doctors finally found the right combination of antibiotics. Now when that happened to this Elder, no one looked at her and said, Karma! They all looked around and said, who put the bad spell on her? My question is this, if it was karma for the gentleman, why not for the lady? There are always 2 sides to every story-I’m sure that neither of them are “lily white”. It’s kind of like the biblical aspect, if you’ve never done anything bad, throw the first stone. Seems to me that not too many of us could pick up that stone.

    3) There is also quite a large Bigfoot Community out there. There is one gentleman who is supposed to be THE Bigfoot authority. He plans to capture one and then kill it. He has been all over creation, trying to find one. Anytime there is a sighting, he is contacted. Quite recently, however, there are several new websites that have popped up. They are questioning this gentleman’s authority, and his credentials. And wondering about the wisdom of capturing and killing something so unique (if in fact they do exist). They are wondering if the only place he’s a legend Bigfoot Hunter is in his own mind. Again, 2 sides! And karma even comes in to play here. If there are Bigfoot, do you think our Creator is going to want something so different and unique killed? Or do you think He would rather we let it live and be what He created it to be?

    4) Again another personal insight. I was once very good friends with a woman. We had been like sisters. But over a period of time, my life changed drastically. Because of some of the choices I made, she chose to end our friendship. We had also had a business relationship which ended at the same time. Through the grapevine, I heard about things which were being said about me. None of which were nice. Do I completely blame her? Of course not. Again it takes 2. And we each had our perspective on things. They were obviously very opposite of each other. Did I feel hurt, yes-and I’m sure she did too. Karma? Most likely-we had a number of past lives together. But it’s the idea, she had her friends who were behind her, just as I had my friends on my side.

    Which brings me to another statement. When we are in a crisis where another person is involved, how many times do we bring our friends into it? And even sometimes our families? We expect people to take sides. Well, you knew me before him, why aren’t you on my side? Why are you telling me that I don’t know what I’m talking about, etc, etc, etc. If a friend is not taking your side, maybe they are seeing something you can’t or won’t see. Maybe if you take a step back, you might just get a little bit of a clearer picture. And if you meditate, you might actually see what this has to do with karma.

    One more story-for years I have been terrified of heights. I had finally asked my spirit guides to show me why, did it have to do with a past life? Well, yes it did. I had been a Native American in a past life and had been being hunted by the white men. I had been cornered on a cliff and had a choice to make-be brutally executed or jump-I jumped. But the story doesn’t end there-I finally asked to be shown that life so that I had more details. Come to find out I was the Chief’s son, and I had some very futuristic ideas on how things should be run. Dad said no way, I had a temper tantrum. I had a wife who was with child at the time and I didn’t have the smarts to keep my mouth shut and just do what Dad told me. So I was kicked out of the tribe. I went nuts, literally, because it had always been my life. I did many bad, evil things to the white men and their families. Which is why they were after me. When I jumped, I saw everything, the error of my ways, what kind of karma I was going to have because of my weakness. When I finally hit the rocks and stream so very far down below, I didn’t die right away. But I was shown, that while I was dying, my son was being born. And he would be given a part of my soul to make things right. He would be a great leader and healer and put a number of things right. And then I was allowed to die.

    Now for any of you that know me well, you know that in this life, I don’t like violence. But if you hurt my family, well, I’ll do what I have to do within reason. No, I really don’t think I could kill someone. I just don’t have that in me, but I could pick up the phone and call 911.
    Does my dislike of violence come from that lifetime and finally knowing the whole story? Yes, I think it does. I’m a healer this lifetime. But again, 2 sided karma.

    So next time you want revenge, think about it-it always takes 2 to tango!

    Blessings and healing!

    Till next time. – Cindy Lee

    Meditation


    2008 - 01.13

    Ahhhh, you have finally decided to give meditation a try! You’ve asked all your friends who meditate, you’ve read books, you’ve gone to websites. Now it’s time to start.

    But then you stop-wait a minute-this friend told you to be outside so you would be grounded, but you live on a busy road. This book said to sit in a chair, feet planted firmly on the ground, with hands hanging at your side. This website said to sit on the floor in a lotus position, breathing a certain way till you feel yourself going into a trance!

    STOP! WHICH ONE SHOULD I DO???

    I am a firm believer in gaining information when embarking on anything new. I have been meditating for over 30 years and have heard all the different ways to meditate. And what works best for me, might not work best for you. So, do what feels right to you.

    When I first decided to start to meditate, I read the books. Then I finally found a group of people that got together for meditation. I decided that a group was best for me because that way there was someone there who would lead us.

    So off I go to the meditation. The teacher started out with the breathing/relaxation exercises, then when she felt we had reached a relaxed state, she verbally painted us a picture. My only problem was that even though I was actually deep, I was still at the start of the darn meditation, trying to figure out what to wear!

    After a few times of that, I finally figured it wasn’t going to matter what was being worn and I was finally truly on my way to meditation.

    I took several more psychic classes to learn more. Each teacher was different about how to sit, what to eat, what to wear, etc. Again, I seemed to be able to go down far enough, but upon hearing what everyone else was sharing about their meditation, I started to wonder if I was cut out for all of this.

    One of the things that most teachers seemed to feel was genuinely important was the morning and night meditations. Now, I’m all for that, but when you have 3 small children running around, a husband/mate, and a bunch of animals that all want your attention, well, it’s just kind of hard to keep up with that whole am/pm thing.

    So, I started to search out within me, what was going to work best for me and still allow me to meditate.

    This is what I found that worked for me. Upon waking or while I was in the shower, I would clear my mind, and ask the powers that be what they needed to tell me. I would listen, knowing that I was being given this information on my soul level. I would then begin my day with that little bit of needed knowledge and silence.

    I would take time in the shower, in the bathroom (yes, I know, but it worked for me), when I was outside, or going to bed at night. I would try to once or twice a week to set aside time for a much longer meditation.

    If I was doing a long meditation alone, I would use some type of equipment that would make a sound upon turning off so that it would bring me back to the present. I knew someone who had decided to do a meditation alone that ended up being almost an hour because she had nothing in place to bring her back. I would tell myself that when I heard the click of the tape recorder or there was no more music, that I would need to come back.

    As I went further along this road, I became the teacher. I would do weekly meditation groups. I had decided that what had worked for me was what I would try. So I did the get comfortable (meaning sit however you want, but tell yourself you will remain grounded), go through the deep breathing and relaxation of body exercises, then I would set up the verbal picture-you are on the shore at the sea, it’s night out, but with a beautiful moon, etc. I would finally shut up and let everyone go where they wanted. I would usually allow 20-40 minutes to pass before I would bring them back into the room little by little. Then once they were all back, we would discuss the meditation.

    I would alway stay awake throughout the whole meditation. But what happens when the teacher gets taken on a journey? That happened one time when I was using a drumming CD. I had started the meditation and the next thing I knew I was back in the room. I had been taken on a very serious journey. It was to give me more information about a past life that I had learned just a little bit about. When I came out of the meditation, the other 3 people were looking at me. I had asked them did they go under at all, they each said no. It’s amazing how the universe works to make sure everything is okay.

    So what do I do now that my life is crazy? I have six cats, a dog, a mate, parents who I spend time with, 3 children who no longer live with me, but we see each other quite a bit. One daughter-the oldest-Denise who is engaged to be married, so we are out looking at dresses, etc? I’m still on my few minutes on waking up, in the shower/bathroom, a few minutes up on going to sleep and anything in the middle I can get.

    My suggestion to any of you just starting on this path of meditation is to gather as much information as you can, sift through it to see what feels right to you, and then try a few different ways on for size. See what works for you. You will find the most comfortable fit and you’ll be on your way.

    Till next time.
    Cindy Lee